I sit on the porch, watching the blue sky — it is much more blue than ever before. I can’t be mistaken, can I? This really is the bluest ever. Those clouds over there, the white puffy way that they appear, grow and mold, and dissipate into the next as they race across the sky. They seem faster than ever before. The way the wind goes through those tall trees. The lower leaves are blowing, the upper leaves are not. Wind is only touching the parts it wants to move. Each of these things cross my mind and marinate. Sit a while. I have time now, because most other things don’t matter at the moment. I am changed.
The way nature is analogous to life is not lost on me, the growing and dying, and I imagine this is the longest I’ve ever stared out into quiet leaf world and wondered about the Creator. How it could be that He made all this so perfectly, some of it for lesson, some for fun and some just because. This New Me sees these things so differently now. The New Me takes the time to see things differently. I am changed.
The thing about life altering experiences is that you are just so ALTERED. In the first days after we found out Mabel had been lost, I had the most unsettling feeling that I didn’t know how to act. I didn’t know what to say or how to feel, what to do with myself or my arms or my hands or my thoughts. I felt like I didn’t know the person I had suddenly and irrevocably turned into, in that split second when we got the news. New Me was totally foreign, and she was a mess.
Driving home from doctor, I cry out to husband.
“What do we do when we get home, watch TV? This is all so civilized. So ridiculous. This is all so wrong. I don’t know what to DO with myself.”
I couldn’t get over how sitting in a waiting room, for confirmation, another look at the screen, when we had already been told what they’d found, was a part of this wretched process. That it was happening so calmly, and had happened like this to countless others before me. Shouldn’t people be wailing and writhing around and shouldn’t everyone be mourning?
Sit here, sign there, take this. I need your blood pressure, dear. All these to do’s circling around a baby who had passed away. None of those to do’s settling on the reality of what we were all doing. I feel like I don’t have the words to describe how surreal and out of body it all was.
It was traumatic. I am changed.
Go ahead sweet girl, go ahead and go home. Have something to eat. Make sure you drink water. Have a rest.
I scream inside HOW can you all be so civilized when my baby has died?! No one hears, they have other people on the list to help. People with live babies are waiting. I am not much use to these people anymore. Move along now. I am changed.
God whispers that I can do this. One foot in front of the other. I listen because I have no other choice. He says get up in the morning, and I listen because I have no choice. My stubborn streak seems to have been washed out of me and down the drain in the bath. Replaced with a quiet obedience that is happy to hand other the steering wheel. I am changed.
I notice little moments with my kids like never before. This dimple, that eye sparkle. The glowy look when we discuss a really good round of Uno. I don’t care about things that are fleeting, I didn’t realize I did before, but — oh — I did. I still enjoy entertainment sure, but tv shows and silly things and the drama of the internet seem to be entirely useless in my life now. A quiet peace runs through my veins, placed there specifically by Jesus. I name that peace Hope, and know it is a special kind that comes only from suffering. I am changed.
We struggle, oh do we struggle, with boys who are still autistic in spite of a life altered. Even though their parents are grieving. Boys who seem to need even more of our energy as they process their loss and how to react to ours. Their issues bother me less, I am more patient. I have sympathy for their inability to control their anxiety and raging outbursts, because I can’t control mine either. Parenting them right now seems so much harder and so much easier, all at the same time. I am changed.
I remember my labor and birth with Mabel, what I had to do, and I know it was Strength from above that got me through. I remember reaching down to feel her head, knowing she was crowning. The feeling that I had with each of her brothers, yet her head so much more tiny. So many mamas who have birthed their babies have felt that moment, known it usually meant excitement. That it usually meant pushing was almost over and you’d meet your baby finally. I knew this time was different, but the joy in that moment still stands on its own. I am changed.
I sit and stare at this screen each day, longing to spill out what I have inside, wondering what to write about next. Do I write about the beautiful mundane, just the mundane, or do I write about Mabel every day? How can I…but how can I not? This confusion is maddening to a soul like mine who spent a lifetime thus far on self-reflection and working on growth. It feels like starting all over.
I am so, so changed.
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Friends, I have a request. I am craving music, healing music. Music about Jesus. I haven’t purchased new music in some time, this type of music in many years. I long for comfort, music about the Word is a big way I receive comfort. I need your recommendations. Right now I am drawn to slow/indie/contemporary songs just because I can pray through them or sway through them or cry through them. The faster rock I so adore seems to be too hard on me right now. I would love to know what music heals and inspires you, even if it’s not “new”, it may be new to me. Honestly even an instrumental that inspires would be great too. Thank you so much for your help!
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Selah’s You Deliver Me album. Hands down.
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Ah, friend. I know this struggle. Not exactly the same, but the feelings, the yearning, I know. I know. My heart goes out to you.
Any old Johnny Cash, from his softer Gospel days. His mother’s songbook, fir example. Alison Krauss. Mahalia Jackson. Charlie Pride.
I’ll be checking back. I need this too.
xoxo
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I love Nicole C. Mullen’s “Call on Jesus.” Bless you and your sweet family.
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JJ Heller–Painted Red
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Miracle Maker by Delirious. It might be a little harder than what you are looking for, but then not, at the same time. Absolute worship. Also Take Off My Shoes by the same band.
I’m continuing to pray for you and your family.
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I don’t know if this song would make you hurt more or help…but it makes me feel better.
My Name, by George Canyon
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Casting Crowns… “I Know You’re There.”
I posted about my “Needing Jesus” playlist a while back, with the playlist itself to listen to. I tend to cling to the same songs during the darkest moments in my life. Perhaps they’d bless and hold you…
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Ashleigh (Heart and Home) Reply:
January 20th, 2010 at 10:28 pm
Oops, meant to leave that link. : )
http://heart-and-home.net/2009/02/when-im-needing-god-he-speaks-to-me/
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I just remembered a song. “How Magnificent You Are” by Rolando Rivas band (http://rolandorivasband.com/). We are friends with the musician, he wrote this song in the wake of the loss of twins in utero. Maybe it will speak to you.
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Ingrid Michaelson – Keep Breathing
I listened to it on repeat while we waited the weeks before the results of our amnio.
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Zuri S. Reply:
January 21st, 2010 at 12:16 am
@Stefanie, I second this one without a doubt. It’s so very soothing and always calms me on repeat.
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Grief has a way of remaking you. I speak from personal experience. On one hand, grieving is agony. On the other, a new you is being created by the One Who Sees. I often felt like Eustace in “The Voyage of the Dawn Treader,” when Alsan peels off his dragon skin. It’s raw and horrible and ugly. But at the same time, I trust the One who is working on me and in me.
On to the music. I’ve found both Nichole Nordeman and Fernando Ortega to offer sweet, soulful music. They both write like David — honest, real but with trust in God.
I’d also BEG you to check out Steven Curtis Chapman’s CD released this past fall, “Beauty Will Rise.” It’s another modern Psalm collection — only these were written as he sorted out his faith in light of the death of his daughter. Powerful, beautiful, honest, trusting. Hopeful. Painful. They are balm to the mourning soul.
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Well, I definitely don’t know of any music but Arianne, your writing is truly a gift from God. The way you can express your mind, your emotions, your soul just blows me away. I know that big things will come your way, things that come along with the altered you.
{{hugs}} I love you.
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Steven Curtis Chapman’s “Beauty Will Rise” CD is amazing.
Watermark-”Glory Baby”
Brook Fraser
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Spirit by Switchfoot.
You know I love Sufjan, which you probably already have. Illinoise, Avalanche, & even the Songs for Christmas hymns are so great.
Also, not Jesus songs but I love Bon Iver’s For Emma, Forever Ago, Sia’s Some People Have Real Problems, Cold Play’s Viva La Vida, & Tracy Chapman’s New Beginning.
love more than you can know,
Steph
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Adventures In Babywearing Reply:
January 20th, 2010 at 11:02 pm
@Adventures In Babywearing,
Also, crazy how this song could have been written by you so I’m not sure if that’s good or bad- Jon Foreman’s In My Arms.
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PS I didn’t mean to only comment about the music selections.
I often recall that my life began after Noah had the seizures. I don’t remember much mattering before that. It was like the muslin was pulled away from my eyes and what I thought I could see before was now in technicolor. People would ask, how are you surviving? How do you do it all? You do not GET A CHOICE.
I am not THANKFUL for having to go through what we went through, but I UNDERSTAND that it changed me and I allowed it to mold me for the better. It’s all in the perspective. You are not the same, You are not looking at life from the same angle. A lot of it will be from down there on your knees and you know what?
I’ve found that to have the most amazing views.
xoxo
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healing and inspired?
Heaven Is The Face by Steven Curtis Chapman
Troubles by Jerry Wise
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I pray for you often, but tonight I will pray that you find healing in some of these songs. God bless!!!!
Chris Tomlin —
I Will Rise
All the Way My Savior Leads Me
Nicole Nordeman —
I Am
Every Season
Brave
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praying for you so much, arianne. may we all be more aware of each other and realize that just because our world is spinning, it doesn’t mean someone else’s is. Mabel Love…what a gift she has given to so many. love to you.
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I would recommend Nickel Creek (pretty much anything, but especially their first album) and anything by Shane & Shane (Shane Barnard and Shane Everett).
If you’re feeling in the mood to have a good cry Shane & Shane’s “I miss you” always does that for me. It’s beautiful but breaks me, every time.
Hang in there, sweets.
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Hi,
I’ve never read your blog before. I saw this post as a Retweet from Steph from Adventures in Babywearing and my heart is broken for you.
I am so so so so sorry.
But at the same time I am so so so thankful you know Jesus. I never know what to say to people who don’t know Jesus when they’ve lost someone dear to them.
I will be reading your blog and praying for you.
Music…definitely Brooke Fraser’s Albertine. Also, Jennifer Knapp – she hasn’t put out anything lately (well, that I know of), but she is so good. Words that echo the Word and yet also tell of struggle and wrestling with who we are and who God is. Good stuff.
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So, so sorry…
Natalie Grant- Held
This song brought me comfort after losing our little one (early miscarriage).
Praying for you…
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I have been meaning to tell you to listen to Glory Baby by Watermark. She wrote it after miscarrying and I have found many of my friends who have miscarried or lost new babies have found it so healing. I kept assuming you knew about it so haven’t mentioned it, but what a stupid assumption.
I agree with Nicole Nordeman, she is one of my faves. “I Am” by her is so incredibly powerful. I am also loving Need to Breathe right now. And I think “Never Alone” by Barlow Girl can be powerful for those moments you don’t feel God close. “Blessed Be Your Name” is a praise song we often sing at church when we are talking about praising God through both good and bad.
I could honestly go on and on. I connect so powerfully to music. I can’t separate my faith and music because they are completely and wholly intertwined. Pray that you find it draws you even closer to the ultimate healer.
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I love any and every version of Amazing Grace, but specifically, Chris Tomlin’s version. It comforted me so much this summer.
Bring the Rain, by MercyMe is also a favorite.
I will keep my ears open for more to share with you. I think music is so healing and powerful.
Much love to you.
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Arianne, you bless me. You really, really bless me today.
I always go back to the old hymns when things are dark. Also, try “Mercies Anew” by Sovereign Grace. If you’ll send me your iTunes log-in email, I’d love to gift it to you–I really mean it.
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Two of my favorites are Travis Cottrell’s versions of “Search Me, Know Me” and” Be Unto Your Name.” Both are slow and stirring.
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when i’m hurting, i turn on Klove (you can get the live stream online) and listen. their songs are softer, worship the Lord and offer comfort. God bless.
http://www.klove.com/Listen/
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I don’t know if this one has been mentioned yet, but as I was reading through your post and saw the request of music, one song immediately came to mind. It’s by Nichole Nordeman and the song is “River God”. Here is a link to the song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihIkPXTpmjw
I hope it ministers to you and I continue to pray for you and your family.
God Bless,
-Jaime
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Any Watermark or music by the Gettys. You’re in my prayers.
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I just discovered your blog today, and was deeply, deeply touched by your words. You have my prayers. xo
Chris Rice has an album of hymns called “Peace Like a River” – the whole album is lovely, but the most gorgeous and more pertinent song is his version of “It Is Well With My Soul.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cPPSG_SpojY
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Amy @ A Chase After Wind Reply:
January 21st, 2010 at 12:29 am
@Amy @ A Chase After Wind,
Oopsie, I hit submit sooner than I intended. I also wanted to recommend “Revelation Song” by Kari Jobe and “Desert Song” by Hillsong.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_3W8XI7W2w
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEx8MRHq09k
*With all of these, I am not necessarily crazy about the videos, just close your eyes and listen to the songs.
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I listen a lot to Amy grant…and Casting Crowns (they’re GA folks yanno) this is my favorite album and song from it and soo so soothing when facing troubles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0meRxklIEA0 Lifesong
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I always enjoy Amy Grant’s Arms of Love when I need to remind myself of His love.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qCh-_ktGvMA
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There’s a song by Overflow called “Cry On My Shoulder.” One of the best out there. I know it is on You Tube, but the cd is also available in stores.
Continuing to pray for you and your family!
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What a powerful post. You have a wonderful way of sharing your thoughts and feelings.
Steven Curtis Chaplin’s album mentioned earlier, written and recorded after the dealth of his daughter.
David Crowder Band’s “How He Loves” its not slow but its a wonderful song God’s love for us.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWgeUrD4MHI
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I’ve just been introduced to these albums/artists too, but I think it’s what your looking for.
Enter the Worship Circle
The first and third circles are the best. I own the third. It’s bare bones, beautiful, crying out to Abba Father. almost tribal. It’s on iTunes. Check out the first circle, it’s got some of my favorite slow, deep worship on it.
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Arianne, your words are so amazing. You are so good at expressing yourself. I love that about you. I love reading your feelings. I hope being able to express yourself like this helps your heart. I truly, truly pray for that for you.
I’m asking around for artist/album recommendations. I’ll post them here if I get any.
xo
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arianne, no matter what you write about mabel will always be a part of it. she’s changed you and that means your craft as well. she’ll know she’s always a part, we’ll know she’s always a part.
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I’m a huge fan of anything David Crowder band.
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It is Well With My Soul always comforts me. Just the old time hymn. Nothing fancy. It speaks to me. Even more in the last 10 years or so after learning the story behind it.
The man who wrote it came over to America from England by himself and his wife and four children were following after him a month or so later. On the Titanic. He heard the news of the Titanic, as did the rest of the world and he feared the worst, of course.
A week or so later he received a telegram from his wife. All it said was “Alive. Alone.”
He then sat down in the midst of his insurmountable grief and wrote the words to It Is Well With My Soul. It’s such a powerful song. It’s the one I turn to in my darkest times and I think of the man who wrote it and if he could find some peace through God at that time, with that kid of loss? Surely, I can, too.
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Amy F. Reply:
January 21st, 2010 at 9:58 am
@Amy,
We also played It is Well With My Soul and Wonderful, Merciful Savior at the memorial. Both touching, moving songs. Selah is also one of my favorite groups and they sing powerful versions of these songs.
Amy F.´s last blog ..My Longing Fulfilled
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Hi Darlin’ –
Try anything by Kelly Warren – w/words or instrumental
Nicole Smith
Heather Clark
all soothing, being wooed by the heart of God
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Hands down…Kari Jobe. Her music, the words…really speak to me. I listened to her during my grieving process and I truly felt God speaking to/comforting me. She is amazing. My recommendation is her first album (2006?) entitled Kari Jobe. I know you will love it. My favorite song on the album is “My Beloved”…played it at my baby girl’s memorial service.
This writing that you are doing is so touching and has got to be somewhat therapeutic for you. You are an unbelievable writer…able to put all of this into words.
Amy F.´s last blog ..My Longing Fulfilled
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I am not much help when it comes to music, but Pachabel’s Canon in D with ocean sounds is my saving grace.
If you’d like I would gladly send you a copy.
You are always in my thoughts and prayers. Write what is in your heart, we will always be here to listen.
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Praying for you as you walk this journey. One foot in front of the other.
An album we listened to over and over {over, and over} after the loss of our nephew then subsequent miscarriage. Was Andrew Peterson’s ‘Love and Thunder’. http://www.amazon.com/Andrew-Peterson/e/B000APMHBA
In prayer.
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I’ve never commented over here before – but I wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss. Your posts about Mabel have touched my heart down deep where I don’t let many people go.
Music I love that has gotten me through some hard times – it’s old stuff, because I haven’t bought anything new in a long time but Brooklyn Tabernacle Singer’s “From the Altar” CD is a favorite of mine, a newer song I’ve come to love in the past year is “I Never Lost my Praise” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOkwUKn_gfc also I just love to listen to the classics, old hymns of praise, instrumental jazz and etc…
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“Thrive” by the Newsboys.
“Deliver Me” by David Crowder.
“In My Arms” by Jon Foreman.
“River God” by Nichole Nordemann.
“Quiet You With My Love” by Rebecca St. James.
After my loses, I found solace and comfort in music, too. These are some of the songs that meant the most to me over the years. They helped me get to a place where I could worship my way through the pain, like a melodic snowplow. I also let them wrap around me like warm blankets, too.
Thinking of you.
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Glory Baby, by Watermark.
Helped us through our own grief immensely.
May His peace continue to be your companion.
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Selah is an amazing group with beautiful voices and songs that send praise to the Lord. Any of their CDs are great.
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Mindy Gledhill and Hilary Weeks were two that I listened to alot after Emma died. oh, and Josh Groban too.
I remember how harsh the world seemed and how strange it was that everyone else was just going on with their lives when mine had stopped so suddenly and unforgivingly.
You continue to be in my prayers and in my heart sweet friend.
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May I suggest Steven Curtis Chapmans newest album “Beauty Will Rise”. . .not the traditional SCC album.
Praying for you and your family!
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I am just so sorry for your lost. I have thought about that sometimes, what would happen to me if anything happened to one of my children-not just the horror of something bad happening to THEM but would I be lost as well?
You are an amazing writer and have captured what you’re feeling so well. I wish I had words of wisdom for you.
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I don’t know. But I’m here. Listening.
Listening as you find your peace.
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“You Never Let Go” by Matt Redman
Hands down, the most comforting song I’ve heard.
A couple of other favorites:
“Son of God” by Starfield
“I Stand Amazed (How Marvelous)” by Chris Tomlin
I found myself wondering, while sitting in the OB’s waiting room for various appointments, about the women around me. Had they just heard bad news? Were they spending every ounce of energy they had to hold it together? What about my doctor or the ultrasound tech– had they just delivered devastating news to someone. I don’t imagine you can utter those words to a mother and leave the room unchanged. Or maybe to have to, in order to maintain your own sanity. I just don’t know. I do know that I spent most of my appointments in prayer for those waiting around me and those who attended to me. Not that it really helps you or how you feel now, but just had to let you know. I just like the thought that maybe those people were silently praying you up right there. Or maybe they went home and fell on their knees for you. Regardless, I have prayed for you daily and will continue.
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Sara Groves, Going Home
Vicky Beeching, Captivated
Michael W. Smith, All Is Well
When I get my own computer back, I will send a few more…
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I suggested Sara Groves via twitter… Now I’m realizing that I have a spare, brand new cd of hers. Is it totally creepy if I want to send it to you? Her music soothes me, makes me think, and has changed my life. He works through her in a very special way. The same way I feel Mabel and you have worked for so many people. She touched my heart.
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I’m afraid I don’t have any music to suggest. Just wanted you to know I am reading and praying you feel His arms around you! You write about Mabel as long as you want to and know your honesty connects all those who felt they were alone with these same thoughts!
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Hey Jen,
This is such a beautiful tribute not only to Mabel but to other moms who have been in your shoes. Jeremy Camp, Chris Tomlin, Hillsong, Brooke Frazier, Steven Curtis Chapman but probably my most recent favorite that my daughter introduced me to is Kari Jobe. The soundtrack from Out of Africa is also one of my favs. Take care and lots of prayers for healing for you.
Kindest regards,
Barara†
Madreminutes.blotspot.com
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Chris Tomlin anything – just his voice heals.
And man, this guy is old-school and maybe wasn’t even cool back when I thought he was cool {I still think he is}, but Michael W. Smith anything will always get me, especially this song from a couple of years ago: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bo1bjTOFbZA
You can also listen to my local Christian Contemporary that does it for me while I work and changed my life and my family’s life. They livestream here: http://wgts.org
Instrumental: I love soundtracks and my favorites from college (paper writing time) were Robin Hood-Prince of Thieves and Glory. I also will always love Enya and nothing is more healing than Nathan from Yanni Voices singing anything. It’s generally in Italian, so you can pretend he’s singing about Jesus.
Love you.
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my healing music:
when the rain comes -third day
breathe you in- thousand foot crutch (a little louder than some)
only you- david crowder
you are in my thoughts and prayers.
sarah´s last blog ..warmth, finally
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Last January I went through a somewhat similar birth, at almost 20 weeks pregnant I lost my daughter. I came across your blog through another right around the time you lost your Mabel and have been praying for you often since. I have been quite speechless at the end of your blog everytime I have read it, but these songs have helped me greatly over the last year and I wanted to share them with you. Some, such as “Held” listened to CONSTANTLY for the first few months. Music has always soothed me when I’m hurting so I seek it out when down. My husband found “Your Hands” for me and it has been my go to for the last month or so… Januarys been a lil’ tough. I’m sure as soon as I hit submit I will think of more but I hope these are soothing to you. I will be praying for you. It is hard. But God is always there loving you. And I know that somedays it was that thought that got me through.
Your Hands by J.J. Heller
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FlL8LayF0uw
Our Hope Endures by Natalie Grant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlbRNGWseBM
Praise You In This Storm by Casting Crowns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ji2rLXr3cEU
Held by Natalie Grant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOufqWodFNo
Only Grace by Mattew West
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9ArVuqm324
More by Mattew West
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mITRKCDel44
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Jerin Reply:
January 21st, 2010 at 3:37 pm
@Jerin,
I did read your “Held” blog but had to put it in anyway it was and still is a favorite of mine.
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Have you heard of Jennifer Knapp or Tenth Avenue North? If not, I think you will absolutely love them both. They’re my go-to Christian artists when I need a hug from God.
For Tenth Avenue North try “By Your Side” (my favorite), “Beloved,” and “Satisfy.” For Jennifer Knapp try “Hold Me Now,” “When Nothing Satisfies You,” “Breathe on Me,” “Whole Again,” and “Say Won’t You Say.”
If you don’t already have an account at Blip.fm (it’s free), you can set one up and blip the songs to try them out before buying (if you’re planning on buying). Plus, you can play back all of your blips (again..FREE) like a playlist when you need to hear the songs the most.
I’m already on Blip.fm so if you don’t feel like setting up an account…that is if you don’t already have one…I will be MORE than happy to blip the songs for you (i can @ you and they will show up in your replies on Twitter) and you can just play them from my list. Just let me know…I’d love to be able to do something to help you so it would be a blessing to me to be able to do it.
Thinking of you and praying for you as always. *love*
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May Your Power Rest On Me by Sojourn Music
(Sorry for the long link: http://www.sojournmusic.com/2009/06/09/hear-may-your-power-rest-on-me-another-mp3-from-sojourns-new-over-the-grave/)
Blessed Be Your Name by Matt Redman (For months after our miscarriage this song made me cry and we seemed to sing it all the time at church…but it was a continual reminder that God is good no matter what.)
I Will Rise by Chris Tomlin
When Nothing Satisfies by Jennifer Knapp
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Just thought of something….I have Jennifer Knapp’s greatest hits collection CDs with all of those songs. They’re loaded onto my iTunes so I’d be more than happy to send you the CDs. Email me if you’d like me to send them.
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I dont have a music suggestion for you, only hugs, tears, support and love.
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I love the classical : Orpheus and the Dance of the Blessed Spirits-it is an instrumental piece I played in high school and college, based on the Greek mythology tales, it is very beautiful and relaxing while still spinning a tale of love and loss.
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PLEASE, PLEASE go to Youtube and search “Song On Eagles Wings”-memorial .
This past weekend I attended a funeral for my cousin…………..they played this song………it is the most beautiful thing i have heard
peace,
Chris
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Needtobreathe Lay ‘em Down
David Crowder Band How He Loves
Casting Crowns Can Anybody Hear Her (all of their music is soul touching, heart grabbing)
Barlow Girl
Chris Tomlin
Todd Agnew
Plumb
I know you had listed some particular genres… the ones I’ve listed have pulled me from the deepest, darkest, loneliest hole I’ve been in during many seasons in my life. May each song you listen to from here on out minister to your soul so very deep……..
Jennifer´s last blog ..Not going there
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Sandra McCracken is one that I listen to often for every season of life. Here are some lyrics from my favorite song of her’s.
“In every station, new trials and troubles
Call for more grace than I can afford
Where can I go? But to my dear Savior
Who saves and keeps and guards my life
Grace upon grace every sin repaired
Every void restored you will find me there
In every turning you will prepare me
With Grace upon Grace…”
~Praying for you dear sister
Ashley
Ashley´s last blog ..I’m Gone
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One more for you my love…. an empowering song to remind us that we are the follower of something AND someone so much bigger than words could ever describe.
HILLSONG DEVOTION
http://s0.ilike.com/play#Hillsong+United:Devotion:21654294:s321350.8166405.8052249.0.1.85%2Cstd_70db328988f043af3d89957c2c422bf4
Jennifer´s last blog ..Not going there
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Jeremy Camp is one of my favorite artists! Did you know that he is headlining the WAY-FM “Speaking Louder Than Before” tour with Chasen, Jason Gray, and The Afters? They are also giving away a FREE Jeremy Camp download! Just click on this link http://www.givmusic.com/2009/11/free-download-from-jeremy-camp/ for the free download. You can also watch a music video, check out upcoming tour information to see if they are coming to your city, AND purchase your tickets.
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Praying for you, your family and Mabel.
My favorite yoga music, which calms me and brings me peace, is by Deva Premal. Go to itunes and check out the song called Om Namo Bhagavate.
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I love you. I love Mabel. I love your boys and your family. I love your writing. I will read anything you write because this love is so strong. You invite us in and we feel you… keep writing. The grief knows when it will begin to change… like the sky and the clouds and the leaves and the wind. Wait and grieve and cry out and enjoy those exquisite moments with your boys and listen to your music and remember. The grief knows when it will begin to change… xo
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You, my friend, are often on my mind. And in my heart. And, yes, in my prayers.
Songs
What Faith Can Do – Kutless
Let the Waters Rise – MikesChair
This link has a lot of good songs on it http://www.klove.com/Music/
Your friend,
Nell
Casual Friday Every Day´s last blog ..The One – Two Punch
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I’m sure other’s have mentioned it, but David Crowder is really what is touching me now. A lot of Hillsong music is powerful too. And old Vineyard music.
Oh, and just one other thing, I know God sees your hurt, your struggle, your joy, your thoughtfulness, even in your darkest days…and I have a feeling your change is touching his very heart.
Amys blah, blah, blogging´s last blog ..Enough
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I’ll bring you some music.
God is in your mouth, in the words – the humble, needy. I love you so much.
Amber@TheRunaMuck´s last blog ..When Peace Like a River, When Sea Billows Roll – a rock home companion
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Your writing is just beautiful. And my heart weeps with yours. After my miscarriages, I was obsessed with Mary Black’s Fare The Well My Own True Love. It was the song that played during the car crash at the beginning of the movie “Fly Away Home.” Lots of others that have been mentioned are lovely.
I actually really enjoy Loreena McKennitt when I am grieving . . .
Jennifer Taggart, TheSmartMama´s last blog ..Since I don’t suck on it, I don’t care
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Music is SO crucial for me when I’m walking through a hard time. An artist I discovered recently is Kari Jobe…a few songs on her album really speak to me–You are For Me, Healer, You are Good. I also listen to Desert Place by Hillsong. Also, while the music might be a bit harder, the lyrics of DAvid Crowder Band “Oh How He Loves” and even more so “Can I Lie Here” minister so much.
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Quiet My Heart – Brooke Barrettsmith
How He Loves – David Crowder Band
Take Me In – Kutless
Glorified – Jared Anderson
I Wish – Nicole C Mullen
What Do I Know of Holy – Addison Road
Here are a few songs that really minister to me. I pray that you continue to feel His peace in this dark valley. Hugs!
Katie´s last blog ..Our Colorful Life
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So sorry for your great loss. This song by Leona Lewis is so very inspiring. My prayers are with you as you heal.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d08X2lN669k
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I would say “Words to build a life on” by Marc Crawford, “House of God Forever” and “Your Love is Strong” by Jon Foreman, “24″, and “Always” by Switchfoot, and “Hold Us Together” by Matt Maher. You can find all on iTunes, Youtube, and probably their Myspace pages too. God bless you.
Jon Foreman’s writing has gotten me through some very dark times, including grief. He understands suffering, that’s for sure. Luckily, so does God. He’s been there. He knows. I love the story of Lazarus in The Bible. The family call Jesus to heal Lazarus, and when he gets to the house Lazarus has already died. Surely Jesus knows he is going to heal Lazarus in just a few moments, and yet the words in the Bible are so striking. “Then Jesus wept.” He was grieving with the family! Whether our healing is on earth, or at the ultimate healing of eternal life, Jesus is right beside us in our grief, feeling our pain, right along with us. He really does offer His comfort in these times of sorrow if we allow Him to carry some of the burden.
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Jaelle Reply:
April 26th, 2010 at 11:14 am
correction: Words to Build a Life On by Mike Crawford – Songs From Jacob’s Well (not Marc, as I wrote)
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