My sweet baby Mabel Love was born a stillborn, January 8, 2010.
She was more beautiful than I could have imagined, and I miss her so very much. I miss her in my womb, and in my arms.
Over the past few days my belly has been silent, today it is empty.
I can’t possibly express to you all the profound impact you have had on me the past few days. Because of all of your immense love and support and prayers, I felt the Spirit cocoon me in warmth and peace and was able to have a beautiful experience yesterday. Truly, truly powerful. I don’t know how I’ll find the words to describe it, but I plan to try. I sit here thinking and thinking, so much to express and share, but too sad to move. To eat. To breathe.
I realized as we drove home from the hospital at 3am today, that I could see it coming towards me. Grief. Like a dark villan barreling down a long tunnel headed straight for me. I knew I wouldn’t be able to escape it.
Yesterday the mother instinct was so strong, I kept asking my husband how the baby was doing, and making sure she wasn’t alone. God I miss her so much.
I see Mabel’s beautiful face in my mind, her sweet little hands etched in mine. She was so small and so perfect, and we feel SO BLESSED to have met her and know she is happy and safe now.
I just miss her.
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i’m so very sorry.
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Oh, Arianne. My heart aches for you. Just remember to do what feels right for you in this long process of grief. Hugs and prayers coming your way.
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much love and continued prayer for you. Im sorry that Mabel cant be in your arms, she will be in your heart forever.
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My dear Arianne….
You are grace and love and beauty… and your beautiful Mabel will always be here. She lives within you… and she’s everywhere. She’s in the sun. She’s in the warm breeze. She’s within the beautiful moon. She’s love.
I’m here for you, anytime… anywhere.
xo
Audrey
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She sounds absolutely beautiful. Praying for that cocoon to keep you warm until you’re ready to fly again.
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oh, arianne…i can’t even put into words what i want to say…i love you and my thoughts are with you and your family, and with sweet mabel. she is a lucky girl to have such a beautiful mama.
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Arianne-I feel such a loss in my heart for you. I do not know what else to say except I pray for your and your husbnad’s healing.
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Wow, I admire your strength, spirituality, and wish you even more faith to continue on. Your family is in my prayers.
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I’m so sorry. i wish I could say or do something more.
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My heart is filled with sadness in your time of sorry. I’m sure Mabel was as lovely as could be. I can’t imagine how much pain there is in your heart right now but know that you have many, many friends you know and many you have yet to meet are praying for strength for you.
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I’m so very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and comfort.
Warmly,
Darcy
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What a beautiful name for a beautiful princess! Love you & Mabel so much. Thinking of you constantly.
xoxo.
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my heart hurts for you…know many are thinking of you and sending strength your way today and always…you and your family are in my prayers…
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I am so very, very sorry. I wish I could tell you the emptiness and pain go away, but as I sit here trying to type, I cry, my own pain crawls its way close to the surface. It does get easier in many ways. In a few weeks you will notice it doesn’t hurt so bad to breathe. In a few months you will notice a day or two will go by before you re live the day you lost her.
When I lost Kai, I wrote letters to him every night. I had to let him know I still loved and missed him so much. Hold on to your faith. And please know she IS your child and will always be.
We all grieve with you.
In the coming weeks, months, even years, talk about her. Share what you are thinking and feeling. I am thinking of and praying for you.
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Oh the tears
I’m so, so, so, sorry, Arianne. I just cannot imagine the pain you’re experiencing. What a beautiful name you chose for your sweet girl. I’m so glad yesterday was a beautiful experience for you, too.
Thinking about you and praying all the time…..
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My heart just aches for you and your family. There are no words I have that can say just how very sorry I am that you are going through this. But, your faith is strong and I pray that God holds you tight and and gives you the comfort you and your family need. He will be there, He is there and I pray His continued grace and love for you.
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My heart aches in your time of sadness. I don’t know what else to say. I am so sorry.
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We don’t know each other, but I wanted to say that another mother is here, crying silent tears for you. *hugs*
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I pray that the peace of God will cover your wounds like a salve and heal all your pain over time.
Blessings, Katrina
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My deepest sympathies. I am so so sorry. And I am sorry for the burden of grief, how overwhelming it is, how it blocks out the sun, the air, the world. I hope peace and healing come to you soon. What a gift to have had time with your girl. Again, I am so so sorry. Please be well.
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I feel so blessed that you shared a bit of her with us by writing this post. I’m so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
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I’m so so sorry. My heart hurts for you and your husband’s loss.
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Thinking of you and sending you even more strength and love
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Arianne,
There are no words right now that can comfort. I’m so sorry for your pain. Please know that our love and prayers are with you and your family. And know that God has a beautiful angel in his lap! Hold her memory close in your heart and know that you are being held close by God and all of your bloggy friends.
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i don’t know you personally…and have never even commented here I don’t believe…but I just wanted you to know that the Lord broke my heart for yours today and you have been covered in my prayers. Thank you for sharing such raw emotion.
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The motherly instinct is there from the conception, I’m convinced of it. I remember asking my husband how we could possibly leave our baby alone in the funeral home over night when my daughter passed away. I worried he might think I was crazy. Still, I find myself mothering her. Taking care of her. You do the same. You’re an awesome mom.
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Ari, I’m so terribly sorry for your family’s loss. I wish I could give you physical comfort. Please know I’m thinking of you constantly.
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I am so sorry to hear that your Mabel was with you for such a very short time. I know that she will be in your heart and your thoughts forever. {{{{{big hugs}}}}}
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Arianne, you take my breath away. The tears the heartache, your strength. You are amazing. I am holding you close. Love you so much, beautiful.
Steph
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Although I do not know you at all I can feel the sorrow in your words, and I am shedding some tears for you and for your little girl right now.
So many will know her name, and a lovely name it is. I am wishing you all the strength and comfort that you will need in the days ahead.
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A beautiful name for your tiny girl. I am thinking of you.
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no words.
just love.
I love you.
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I am so sorry. My heartaches for you. Praying for comfort and peace for you and your family.
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Oh my dear. So many prayers being said for you and your family. Prayers for peace and comforting…prayers for strength and rest.
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I’m sorry for your earth shattering loss. Thinking of you and sending love and prayers your way.
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Keeping you in my thoughts, and sending a prayer your way.
So sorry.
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I am so, so sorry for your loss…there’s just nothing more to say than that.
Thinking of you.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Wish I would have come to know you and your blog under a different circumstance. There are lots of people out there praying on your behalf. I hope you feel peace in the midst of your storm. Much love and blessings.
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I am so sorry. Our first daughter was stillborn in 2004. You are not alone in your grief. And you are in our prayers.
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Sending you love and prayers.
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am even sorrier that you are feeling and experiencing this loss. We will be praying for you, your family and for all touched by this unexpected loss of life.
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I am so incredibly sorry. My heart just breaks for you. I pray for comfort and understanding for you and your family. Please know you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Arianne, my heart is in pieces for you and your family. Sending you lots of love and hugs… -Christine
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You and your sweet Mabel are in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
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I will pray for you and your family. You’re very brave to share with us all.
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Oh, Arianne. My heart breaks for you. Keep your family in my thoughts.
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If the ache in my heart for you could ease your burden even one iota, I would carry even more. I am so very sorry for you and your family, Arianne. I continue to pray God’s peace and comfort over you, even as you walk through the valley. Even in the deepest, most utter darkness, He is there.
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Mabel sounds like a precious little one, and I’m sure the day you are reunited in Jesus’ arms will be a beautiful one. I will continue to pray for you!
Much love…
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I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
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Arianne, I’m so terribly sorry. Heartbroken for you and your family.
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Dear Arianne:
My tears are joining with the rest to fill bowls in heaven. I pray that God will cast revelation on the why’s of all this or will simply give you peace and grace to walk without understanding. Mabel is in His arms, and you are in His arms, so in that way you are together again.
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Praying for you…
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Arianne, my heart goes out to you. No one can ease your pain right now but may you find comfort in the love of your family and friends – online/offline.
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oh, arianne. sending so many prayers for you and your family as you miss your Mabel Love. i’m thankful you feel how much you are loved.
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((((Arianne))))) praying for you & your family during this time. Mabel is so lucky to have you all to call a family and one day you all will be together again. much love.
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Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy. ~Eskimo Proverb
Continuing my thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
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I am sending you love and prayers right now – and I will hold you in my prayers as you find your way through this painful journey.
xxx
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I wish with all my heart that there was something I could say or do to ease your pain. I am so very sorry. You have all my love and prayers. *hug*
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Arianne,
I am so sorry for your loss & my deepest sympathies. I am grateful you got to hold, and see your sweet little Mable. All my love to you and your family.
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I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I am the only surviving child of my mother who had a total of 4 children, the last one being a full-term stillborn sister, whom I grieved for at the age of 7. May you feel God’s loving arms surround you and your family in love.
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praying for you
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*sniff* ;(
I’m so sorry for your loss. Lovely name, Mabel. I have no doubt you will get to know her [better] in the afterlife.
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Arianne, you have been & will continue to be in my prayers. May His peace overwhelm you during this difficult time.
xo
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I am so SO sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying for you and your family.
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Oh Arianne, what a beautiful name. Mabel Love is now safe, sheltered in the arms of God. She is an angel. You have so many friends who care so much and are grieving along with you. May you feel peace and strength in the days to come. Hold tight to your boys and Jacob. You are so loved!
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I don’t know what to say because I’m too devasted for you to say anything. I’m crying with you. I’m praying for your comfort and understanding during this time. I wish to hell I could just hug you and let you cry until there were no more tears. I am so deeply sorry, Arriane.
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every time I think of the name Mabel, I think of Mad About You and how they named their daughter that bc it stands for “Mothers always bring extra love.” beautiful name. praying for you and your family.
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Oh beautiful Arianne! You all have been in my thoughts so much and I have been praying good Lord to give you all strength. Mabel will always be with you, such a beauty. I wish I could take all this pain away… just know I am sending big virtual (((HUGS))).
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Arianne,
Mabel’s loss is utterly heartbreaking and right now anyone would wish that magic wands really existed. I hope the memory of Mabel will always be a blessing and you find comfort in knowing so many others love and care about you and your family.
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I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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What a beautiful name, Ari! I wish there was something I could do to take away the pain you’re feeling right now. Even though it seems very far off, I’m confident you’ll see here again someday.
All my love and prayers,
Tara
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Beautiful words to honor your Mabel. I haven’t been able to stop thinking of you & praying for you these past few days. Love to you.
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Sweet friend…rest in the One who knows and loves baby Mabel Love even more than you.
That, eventually, well be enough.
Love you.
~ R.
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Oh, Arianne, I am SO sorry. I am praying for you, and I know so many others are, too, as you walk through this time of grief.
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Oh my..like many here, my own pain rises up to swallow me up in my attempts to give comfort to you. I ache in thinking about your perfect little Mabel. Simply ache. I ache again for my perfect little Scott. I ache for the what should have beens.
For grief like this is sooo painful……too much.
No help..but I am soo sorry.
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SO, so sorry, Arianne. I will hold you and the family in my prayers.
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Sweet, sweet Arianne.. My family is praying for you. Be blessed, my friend, in God’s sweet comfort…
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Arianne, my heart breaks for you. Rest in His arms, knowing He created that beautiful little girl for a divine purpose and called her back to Him already to fulfill it. What a sweet blessing that you got to meet her. May God continue to wrap His arms around you and wipe away your tears. Hold on tight, Arianne. He loves you and Mabel more than you can imagine.
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Arianne, your Mabel is so beautiful because you made her, rather she was made for you. She’s so blessed to have you to love her so. If you need anything…ANYTHING, let me know. A prayer, an ear, a shoulder or something more tangible. Love you SO much.
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there are no words. thinking of you and sweet mabel. sending my thoughts and love and wishing i could lessen the pain. xoxo love, col
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Simply that I am so sorry for your family’s loss. Wishing you peace, strength and comfort.
-Candice
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My tears join my prayers for you. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Ari, I’m so so sorry.
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Been praying for you. I remember having to deliver my own baby (slightly younger than yours) and the grief coming from so deep within me. I have never felt so simultaneously abandoned and yet immeasurably loved by God as I did during that (very painful) time. Know that there is someone from across the country praying and crying for you now.
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Praying for you
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I am so sorry for you loss, dear sweet Mabel is dancing in the sky with all of the others taken too soon. Crying with you and sending you love and prayers.
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I’m so sorry you weren’t able to properly meet your little one. Such a lovely name, if I’d ever had a girl, I would have named her Mabel, as well. Very fitting for a little angel. I’m sure she’s cavorting with my angels in Heaven right now.
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A –
Know that I am praying for you each and every day. I pray for peace, I pray for rest, and I pray for a sense of calmness. We love you and are here to support you on this sad journey.
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i am so very sorry for your loss. please continue writing through your tears. your words are powerful and can be a source of therapy for you as well as help others who are walking your same path. sending you prayers.
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So tremendously sad for your loss. May you find peace.
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I cannot express to you how sorry I am for you and your family. Please just know that a universe of love and light are being lifted your way. ~namaste~
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Sweet Arianne…I am so so sorry. My heart aches for you, my face is wet with tears for you, and my pleas to Heaven are in your behalf. I wish you didn’t have to know this pain, that you weren’t a member of this awful club. Know that as you embark on this journey of grief, there are so many of us who have walked this rocky path that are willing and able to hold you, help you, and guide you. If you need me, please don’t hesitate one bit.
Love you and your sweet family.
xoxo
Kim
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I know that my words can’t even begin to dissipate the deep grief you feel, so I will just say that I love you and am here for you.
I so look forward to meeting Mabel Love someday. <3
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I am so sorry for your loss (hugs)
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Oh my dear girl, I cannot imagine your grief. I wish you strength and healing, and I am praying for you daily. I wish I lived nearby so I could bring you a meal and give you a hug. Please know that you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
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Arianne, I am so sorry. Know that we are hear to listen at anytime.
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I know these words are not enough, but I am so, so sorry. I am thinking of you and sending you long distance bear hugs.
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Oh sweetie… I’m so sorry. I’ve shed tears for you and your family this week, and said (and continue saying) prayers. Know that we’re all thinking of you guys, and Mabel Love. What a beautiful name, forever yours.
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Oh honey, I’m so so sorry. *gentle, healing hugs*
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Arianne, I am so sorry. Warmest wishes for peace and healing. Hugs and love.
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I am so, so sorry. I am just now seeing this. I know words cannot really help. But our thoughts are with you and your family.
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So very sorry for the loss of your daughter.
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Know that your dear sweet baby girl is now watching over you. She is bathed in the warmth of your love and strokes your cheek when you cry. I am very sorry for your loss and know that here too sits a mother silently crying.
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Oh my. My heart is aching right now, my eyes filled with tears. I think it’s amazing that you got to see her. My doctor’s talked me out of it…. told me that being put to sleep would be easier for me. I regret that decision every, single day. I didn’t get to hold her… I didn’t get to say goodbye.
(((HUGS)))) I hope you continue to feel the love that is surrounding your family at this time. I hope that you will find hope in your life and that you will lean on faith. My prayers, my heart, my love are with you.
Love, Amanda (@anjyldream)
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I wish I could think to come up with the words you might need to hear right now. But I can’t really think past my fast beating heart, and painful tears for you. I’m sure she was just so beautiful, but the fact that she “was” so beautiful hurts and makes me angry.
So angry that you’re going through this — so upset that she will miss out on you as her Mother here on earth. So sad that your wonderful boys won’t get to grow up protecting their sister. And heart wretched that she won’t be “Daddy’s” little girl, or your sweet little dress up doll.
I’m beyond words— please know we all care so much. But I know all the love and tears and prayers can’t give you want you really want… your baby, in your arms, at your breast. I’m so very, very sorry.
Nell
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I’m so sorry. I’ll be praying for you.
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I am so sorry. May God keep you wrapped in his loving embrace.
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My heart hurts so very bad for you. I’m sure there is nothing I can say to make it easier for you, though I wish there were.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers everyday.
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I’m hurting for you right now; I’m glad you got to enjoy some beautiful time with your daughter. We are praying hard for you, your family and beautiful Mabel.
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She sounds like a beautiful baby! We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
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can’t help but be reminded of the line
Mothers Always Bring Extra Love
mabel.
it’s one of my favorite names … and it couldn’t be more fitting for such a beautiful daughter of a beautiful mama. sending love.
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arianne much love to u and ur family i am so sorry for ur loss u are in my heart and in my prays
kylee
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Oh Tink, I keep reading about your story. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I hope in time you will feel better. *hugs*
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I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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So, so sorry….. sending hugs to you and praying prayers for you and your family.
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I’m very, very sorry for your loss. Prayers from another mommy…
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I don’t know what to say…I am so sorry! Sending love and prayers and hugs from Tennessee.
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I LOVE her name. Mabel. So lovely.
I am so sorry for your loss. I’m glad we have been of some comfort.
Rebecca
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I am so sorry, I can’t even begin to imagine who you are feeling.. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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I am praying for you…thank you for sharing Mabel with us. Through your beautiful words she will be remembered in many people’s hearts.
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I am glad you were able to be together to say goodbye. I can’t imagine your sorrow but I hope you and your family will be able to come to terms with the early passing of your sweet Mabel Love.
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Beautiful, beautiful name for your special baby girl. Thankful to the Lord to hear you say you had a beautiful experience yesterday. Although it’s probably the hardest thing you’ll ever go through, making the most of that sweet time with your precious little one is how it should be. Lifting you up to Him tonight.
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I’m so very sorry for your loss, and I pray for you and your family.
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In time, years, dust settles.
In memory, ages, God emerges.
Then when we look back, we see God’s back.
Wasn’t that too His way with Moses? “When my glory passes by, I will put you in a cleft in the rock and cover you with my hand until I have passed by. Then I will remove my hand and you will see my back” (Ex. 33:22).
Is that it? When it gets dark, it’s only because God has tucked me in a cleft of the rock and covered me, protected, with His hand? In the pitch, I feel like I’m falling, sense the bridge giving way, God long absent. In dark, bridge and my world shakes, cracking dreams.
But maybe this is reality: It’s in the dark that God’s passing by. The bridge and our lives shake not because God’s abandoned, but the exact opposite: God’s passing by. God’s in the tremors.
Dark is the holiest ground, the glory passing by.
In the blackest, God’s closest, at work, forging His perfect and right will. Though it is black and we can’t see and our world seems to be free-falling in and we feel utterly alone, Christ is most present to us, eye beam supporting in earthquake. Then He will remove His hand. Then we will look.
Then we look back and see His back.
He is close, Arianne… even in the blackest grief…
A gift in the grief… The Glory of God passing by in the dark.
I love you … and so pray.
Mable Love, the star that never falls…
All, all my love,
Ann
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My heart aches for yours.
http://segullah.org/index.php?s=hourglass+theory
This is a link to an essay written by CJane. I thought of you when I read it.
Keeping you close.
Tammy and Parker
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What a lovely way to celebrate sweet Mabel.
May God take your heart and mend and heal it in the days to come.
Praying for you now…
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I am just without words — shivering with grief for you. It is just so unfair. This world can just be so cruel. I am so sorry you lost your precious baby girl. I just am so unbelievably sorry.
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My heart aches and aches for you, I have no words but I will continue praying for you an yout family.
Hugs,
Heidi
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So very sorry to hear about your loss. May our Lord comfort you with the knowledge of His grace.
Blessings,
Merryheart
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I’m a new visitor to your blog, but I was so saddened to read your announcement. Unfortunately I have been in your place. I lost pregnancies at 17 weeks and 20 weeks.
I’m so sorry that anyone has to experience the kind of grief you are facing. Just remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Whatever feels best for you and your family is right.
I also found SHARE and it’s forum to be very helpful.
http://www.nationalshare.org
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I’m so very, very sorry for your loss. I know that no words can comfort you right now but please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I am so sorry you are going through this but please know that you and your family are in our families prayers. You have a huge network of women that truely care about deeply!!
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My heart hurts for you.
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Mabel is a beautiful name. I’m praying for you all tonight.
Also, I know this sounds insane but someone mentioned this to me when I had my miscarriage and it brought me comfort. I felt like my arms were empty and that I should be holding something so friend who’d been through the same thing told me to find a teddy bear stuffed with rice that was heavy and firm and I carried it around with me when I felt most lonely. It sounds insane and I know Victor questioned my sanity for those weeks but it brought me comfort when nothing else did. Whatever you need it right. Sending you love. I’m here if you need it.
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Your daughter will be in your heart for the rest of your days on earth, and waiting for you with the Lord. I truly believe. I’m praying for peace and comfort and that you will feel the big enormous hug I am enclosing in this comment.
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Praying for you all.
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I’m so sorry, honey. Praying for peace in your heart.
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Praying for you, your family, and your beautiful angel in heaven…
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I’m so proud of you for getting through the last few days with surrender, peace, and strength. Your faith in God and connection to the Spirit is so evident, as I see no other way that any one could endure the grief and loss that you have experienced already, and the trial that your body has physically gone through. I believe that God blessed me with a supernatural joy yesterday, because it didn’t make sense that I was joyful, but when I got the text that my niece was born, I was celebrating her life, and in love with her so much. The grief is still there, but the joy of knowing that she got to be apart of this family for this short time, she got to hear your voice, know her Mama, know her Daddy, know her brothers- I am so thankful for that. Her life was taken long before its time, but I’m thankful for that beautiful little girl, and celebrating her short life. I miss her too. I’m so sorry I can’t be there with you, but I’m so happy that you got to see her pink beautiful face. I can’t wait for the moment where you see that pink gorgeous face in heaven- and you never have to say goodbye. Your faith in God, strength, and surrender honor her life so much. I pray that God gives you a supernatural peace, and time to heal and that you feel protected under His Wings while you cry, and you grieve with Jesus. Because He cries with us, but He also is holding your beautiful baby girl now, and she is in a beautiful place. I love you so so very much. I miss her too.
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I also wanted to say, that I love what you wrote here. I love that God gave you the peaceful experience that you, Jacob and Mabel deserved. I love that He gave you the strength to some how communicate a small portion of what you are feeling, and you did it so beautifully, and I’m just in awe of you. The villain of Grief is coming but your God is bigger then it, and your friends and family are surrounding you, fully encompassing you, to lessen the blow coming right at you. It will still come, but we will be here. Love you.
Carrington´s last blog ..Speak blessings
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I have been down the road you are now traveling as my son was stillborn at 39 weeks in 2003. You will never forget your daughter!
And I know you don’t know me, but if you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me. I know how isolating grief can feel.
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I hope these comments keep that cocoon strong, you are so loved and so many people are wishing they could take some of the pain from you , and replace it with peace and comfort. Much love and many prayers.
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Oh my friend – words fail me. And yet, as always you are so eloquent. You manage to harness both your grief and faith and lay them bare for us. More than anything, I am hopeful you find comfort in the prayers, hugs and love being sent your way. The comments above are indicative of the influence you have had on people, of the love you inspire and the friend you are to so many of us.
I am so very sorry your sweet Mabel couldn’t stay longer. You are so amazingly strong.
xoxo Danielle
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Arianne – I know that there really aren’t any words that can make this even a bit better, but I want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I’m so very sorry for your loss. I had a stillborn son January 13, 1992. My prayers are with you.
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Praying for your comfort. I had a miscarriage earlier this year. It was a painful loss. I am feeling your pain.
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I have no idea how I ended up her – but I just read your post – I am so sorry for your loss! May God comfort you!
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I am so so sorry to hear this…my heart & prayers go out to you & your family. RIP Angel Mabel <3
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Praying that you know Peace every moment of the day from the Great Peace-Giver in the dark days ahead. He is with you. He is with your sweet baby girl. And that will join you together. Forever.
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mabel is the single most cutest name i have heard in a LONG time. so unique, so beautiful, just like her. mabel, mabel, mabel!
i will speak her name for you as i have found through my own grieving process how important it is.
i’m sure your mabel is breaking my little jonboy’s heart already
peace to you mama, – julie
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surround yourself with anything and everything that brings you peace and comfort…lean on family and friends…and follow your own path, not one dictated by others.
this is a "club" that no woman ever wants to belong to…but in it you are never alone, or without love and understanding.
my thoughts are with you.
love and kindness are never wasted,
andrea
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Arianne-my heart aches for you, I can’t imagine how difficult the last few days have been. The love and support will continue to come your way. Bless you and baby Mabel.
~mendie
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My heart reaches out to you and I hold you and your family in my thoughts. May you find peace and love in each moment.
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I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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Though I don’t know you personally I felt the need to let you know that I am praying for you. I know right now you are immersed in grief that is so overwhelming but I also believe that you know your sweet Mabel is cradled gently in Jesus’ arms. And that He is holding you as well. I am praying for you.
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Arianne,
I learned from your mom and sister about your little angel Mabel who has stayed with Our Lord. She will watch over all of you and send her love to you from heaven. I have been touched by your unshakeable faith even while your are grieving. God Bless you, your dear husband and your wonderful family. I am very sorry for your loss. No doubt God has another plan which will be revealed to you in time.
Victoria´s last blog ..Alignment of the Heart: Connecting With Others Through Network Marketing
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I am still praying for you and know that God is with you every step of the way. Little Mabel is with Jesus now. But she will be with you forever. Even though you feel you are alone, you are not. We are all here for you. Say what you need to say…….we are listening. I have a little pair of white moccasins I hang on my Christmas tree each year. They were for the little one I lost 23 years ago. I don’t know what to comfort you with other than you are not alone. Take care…….chris m.
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I am lifting you and your family up in prayer. I am so very sorry.
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Praying for you, babe. Major Hugs and love headed your way!
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With tears in my eyes I can only share that my prayers are with you. With you as you battle the heaviness of grief. What a beautiful name for a beautiful girl. I cannot wait to meet her someday. The separation is so hard. From the depths, I am sorry.
Prayer and love.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I had the words. But there are none.
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I am so very very sorry. Your baby sounded so beautiful, and it is so sad. I lost my daughter Rachel 7 years ago and it has been just horrible.
I feel so awful for you-I am in tears. I am just so sorry this happened.
I will have you in my prayers.
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I wish my heart was big enough to wrap around your world. I wish my arms were long enough to find you in that dark tunnel. I hope you know that my love is immense enough to fill it with prayers for you, for your beautiful Mabel Love and your family…
xo.
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So very sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I came across your blog by chance this week or rather by divine intervention I’m sure. In your time of grief you are an inspiration. Your grace and faith has touched me deeply and shows hope for this world lost in darkness. You and your family have been and will continue to be in my prayers. May the Spirit continue to envelope you and bring you peace.
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We don’t even know each other. But I know you are a beautiful person. And your daughter was such a beautiful person. Mabel. What a sweet sweet name. She felt love from you. So much. Know that.
Hang in there. Prayers are going your way.
Abra´s last blog ..Don’t touch the yellow stuff.
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Thinking of you and your angel baby.
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Oh Arianne, I can’t even begin to imagine. I am so relieved to hear you had peace in your soul.
Sending so many prayers…
Susan (5 Minutes for Mom)´s last blog ..Arianne and Mabel Love
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mabel.
oh that is the most beautiful name, arianne. i’m sure it is perfect for her.
many many prayers to you and your family.
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Arianne,
Please know that you and you husband, Mable, and all of your family, are not alone.
When my twins died (the day they were born) I thought the world had ended. I can’t begin to tell you what it took to get through the dark times, but I know that you and your family will find a way. When people are surprised at how much I grieved (and still do), it is usually because they don’t realize how much we love our babies– when our babies are a dream, when they are growing inside us, as they die, and as they live on in our hearts.
keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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I am sending you a massive amount of love and prayers right now. I hope you can feel it as you are surrounded by so many that care so much.
xoxo.
Beth at Folding Laundry´s last blog ..Friday Morning Coffee
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I am so very, very sorry about the loss of your baby. My heart aches for you and I grieve with you. I lost my precious son Noah at 9 mos of age. I know first hand, there is nothing to describe the pain of the loss of a child.
Sending a big, long hug your way…and sending many, many prayers heaven-ward.
Love,
Sandy
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I’ve never been to your blog before. Someone I follow on Twitter tweeted about you, so I clicked over here. And I just want to say I’m so very sorry. I can’t imagine what you’re going through.
Lori @ The Davidson Den´s last blog ..Attempting Project 365 Week #1 (or is it #2?)
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Oh Ari… to have had that moment… God, how beautiful to take that memory with you through the loss. I can’t imagine.
My mother lost two babies. One was still born. She never really mourned her and until recently, she has begun to feel the sadness. Although the grief comes, I pray that it doesn’t haunt you. I pray that you feel all of our love…
and Mabel’s.
Sugar Jones´s last blog ..Why I Have to Kill My Neighbor
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You were missed at Cupcake. We sent much love your way.
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Prayers for you.
I don’t really know what to say, but that you are loved and if you need anything just ask.
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Sweet friend.
Mabel is such a beautiful name.
Others have said my heart so much better, so I’ll just say. Love to you and my prayers are lifting you up.
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I’m so very, very sorry.
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I know that there is nothing I could say to make you feel better right now…so know that many prayers are going out to you.
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My heart aches for you and your family. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby, Mabel, and only wish I could take some of the pain away. Hugs to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I found your blog via ExtraordinaryMommy. I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you are going through. You are such a strong woman. My prayers and thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
Amy´s last blog ..First Night Away From Home
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I amvery sorry about the loss of your baby. I hope you create a brave heart. I am with you. I love you.
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I am Steph’s aunt, Diane & I am praying for you!
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My heart is breaking for you today. Words fail me but know that I am praying for all of you today and hugging my own little ones a little closer
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I am thinking about you this morning… you are wrapped in my mind, my heart, my soul, my prayers. I am thinking about your sweet baby girl Mabel… she is dancing from cloud to cloud and singing with the most precious angels of all, the baby angels… and thousands and thousands of angels from all space and place and time are taking care of her. The pain is unthinkable and the grief is indescribable… please know that we know this and wait for your words when you are ready to write them. Much love…
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I am so very sorry. I truly feel your pain. I just gave birth to a baby boy on October 23rd. I was 16 weeks along and so shocked when the ultrasound showed the baby lying very still. I will pray for you because it is not easy. You will get through this but it takes time. I am so,so sorry.
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My darling, I cried as I read this in my email and I’m crying more here seeing the post itself and all of the comments. So many love you and although that’s not comforting after losing a child, know that we are all thinking of you and praying for you.
I pray you have your own daughter soon enough.
God Bless You!
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tracey Reply:
January 13th, 2010 at 5:44 pm
@Angie,
With all due respect Angie – Arianne has a daughter. Her name is Mabel, and she died.
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Angie Reply:
January 14th, 2010 at 6:53 am
@tracey, Yes Tracey, I’m aware. I didn’t mean that comment in any other way than what I wrote.
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Arianne,
My thoughts are on nothing but you, Jacob and your sweet boys as you embrace this grief of your beautiful Mabel. How blessed Mabel is to have had you as her mama, and such a wonderful family. I pray you feel and experience God’s peace and comfort in a fierce way.
~Lisa
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Death will exist no longer; grief, crying, and pain will exist no longer, because the previous things have passed away.”
Revelation 21:4
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I know there are no words appropriate. So, please know you are loved and prayed for. May God bless you and give you and your family peace and comfort.
Lisa@blessedwithgrace´s last blog .."They talking about me, Mommy?"…
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I am so so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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My heart aches for you. May your sweet boys surround you with love during this difficult time.
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss of little Mabel, and I pray for your peace and comfort. For you healing. Thank you for writing this beautiful post to share with us. You are a very strong woman.
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I’m so sorry, Arianne. Thank you for sharing your heart, and the beauty of Mabel Love, with all of us.
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I am so very very sorry.
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Crying and praying for you.
a
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My heart hurts for you and your husband.
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So many prayers for you. May you have all the space and time you need to speak of Mabel whenever and however you want . . .
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Please know that my heart breaks for you. I am here by way of Caryn Bailey’s blog, and want you to know that there are many of us in the blogging community that are praying for you.
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Thinking of you and praying for you. I’m so very sorry.
Elaine´s last blog ..A Proper Goodbye
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I lost my baby at around 20 weeks a couple years ago. I know its such an awful experience. I still cry nearly daily about it. Its all so confusing to me why it happened, why it HAD to happen. If feels so unreal yet its the most real and intense thing I have ever been through. I gave birth to a baby and came home with nothing but a little box filled with things like tape measurers and a tiny blanket, but not a baby. The baby was so perfect yet missing the most perfect thing of all…life. If you ever need to talk to someone who’s been there (that helped me sooo much) you can email me at any time!!!! I can listen I can talk I can share I can tell you what to expect as your life goes on without Please contact me if you want
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I lost one of my twin sons at birth. That was 14 years ago. The pain never truly subsides, you just learn to cope. It’s unfair that your daughter was taken from you so suddenly. It’s hard to have faith in God when things like this happen. I don’t know how I got to your page this morning, but I am grateful I can be here to give you the blessing of a mother who knows, who understands and grieves alongside you.
Anytime you want/need to talk…I’m an email away.
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i am so very sorry for your loss. may many prayers keep you wrapped in His peace. and may this link (not mine) bring some comfort from a family who has recently been where you are today:
http://www.audreycaroline.blogspot.com
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Oh Arianne, I just heard your sad sad news. I am so sorry for you and your entire family. I wish that we were still neighbors so I could take the boys for you! Please let us know if there is anything we can do!
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I’m so terribly sorry.
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Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] Reply:
January 13th, 2010 at 4:20 pm
@Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing],
shit. i’m sorry my commentluv link went up there. i tried to stop it from loading, but i didn’t catch it. i’m so sorry…
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I’m so sorry for this deep loss, and am grateful you’ve felt some comfort through it all. I’m thinking of you and your family.
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Oh, so sorry. Sending hugs and warmth.
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I’m so so very sorry to read the news of Mabel’s death, and the pain you are living right now, losing your daughter. There are just no words to describe the unbelievable cruelty of this experience on a family. We also lost our daughter to stillbirth – just about a year ago, and reading your news brings me back to the pain of those days. I know how impossibly hard it is to live these days and I wish you weren’t going through this. My thoughts are with you..
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i am so profoundly sorry.
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Oh, I’m so sorry. I lost my baby boy thirteen years ago now. It still hurts, but like you I did feel God’s arms around me, and that made all the difference, even with the milk coming in and the empty arms.
I put a 2-minute video together of my “Prayer Through Tears” for moms who have lost babies. You can see it here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JlYrRjMmCEY
May you always remember that everyday is a day closer to your Mabel, and not a day further away from her.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Mabel is lucky to have you as a mother. Continue to share her story.
http://www.nationalshare.org
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss and to read back over your past posts about loss and miscarriage and hope. Your writing is beautiful. Your story is heartbreaking. I am hoplding you and your family and your lovely Mabel in my heart and keeping you in my prayers.
She is in heaven with my and other adored angel babies, watching over us and knowing we will be together someday.
Sending hugs to you!
Brittany at Mommy Words´s last blog ..The Incredible Shrinking Uterus
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