As I prance on down to live in the South for the first time in my life, and to well and truly find my inner steel magnolia, I’m sure I’ll have many stories to share. Tales of some of the most treasured southern secrets and deep history that I know I’ll just eat up with a spoon.
Today, I already have a story to share, and we’ve not even left the Midwest yet. I can tell this is going to be fun.
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Some other southern sweeties like Robin and SaraSophia have already taught me my first southern word: Surcee. Or Surcie. They are unsure how to spell it because everyone just DOES it.
It means “a little treat, just because“, but the truth is, it must be something they hold very close to the chest there in the South because you can find almost no information about the concept online. Actually, you can, but when you google “Surcies” you basically find Robin’s posts about the idea. She is the queen of Surcees.
Robin explained that it’s a sweet little “sumpin sumpin” that is high in emotional value and often low in monetary value. I love this, because you can send someone something special and just by them calling it a surcie it automatically makes the gift that much more awesome. And (happy) tear inducing.
As this most lovely tradition was being explained to me, Robin handed me the prettiest of gifts, a present that made me lose my breathe because of how much it meant. She said, simply,
“I have a Surcee just for you.”
What was it? It was one of the gorgeous posie pins from (in)courage. The reason this little treat meant so much, was because (in)courage is a site that has brought me MUCH in the way of support, like-minded love, and just plain “yeah, it happens to me too”-ness. It’s impacted my soul, made me find a tribe of women that I didn’t realize existed. Spiritual women who make no apologies for it. I feel less tense, less anxiety after reading their posts, and I’ve found INCREDIBLE writers and blogs through them too. I say this with no exaggeration — (in)courage has changed me head to toe.
The posie says “quite blessed” on it’s leaf. Oh. Am I.

So you can see why I may have gotten a tad choked up. It was my first Surcie, after all.
Before I could even fully pin on my posie and dry my eyes, Sarah chimed in. Let me preface this by saying we had only just met — actually we may have not even officially met yet at this point. It was all a blur.
So SaraSophia says, “Oh, you like gifts? I have one for you!”
Then she handed me a box, with the most lovely of necklaces. So precious, so different, just enough feminine and funky to suit my needs perfectly. It was this necklace by muntedkowhai (in pink):

As you can imagine, SaraSophia and I have been in love ever since.
These women and their Surcees, they blessed me SO. I needed them and their love right in those moments. They appeared, seemingly out of nowhere, to heal tiny wounds I hadn’t realized needed healing.
As I continued researching this most secretive tradition, I came across the Charleston Cookie Company. It seems Charleston claims the right to be called “originator of the Surcie“, and I think it’s entirely NOT a coincidence that I had these special Surcee moments and also happen to be moving to Charleston in less than two weeks.
Have you received any Surcees lately (even if you didn’t know they had a name)? I’d love to hear about them!
Here is a pic of me with my Surcies, right after they were bestowed:

*Photo by Amber
Here’s to gifts for no occasion, Surcies, and here’s to all the loveliness I know the South has in store for me still.
Updated to add:
Robin reminded me in the comments that PEOPLE can also be Surcees, and I realized that I left out a lovely little moment I meant to share…that after sharing some giggles and special conversation with Robin she told me that I was a Surcie to HER. Yes, that is when we fell in love as well.
Who are your Surcees?
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Ari…
Sweet one…
Did you know PEOPLE can be surcies, too? We may have met before Type-A but our friendship was consummated there; and in a very real sense, your openness and interest and presence blessed me in ways you'll never know. How could I NOT love you after our mad note exchange?
And how much does it make me smile that you did exactly what I did in my post–spell surcee a bunch of different ways 'cause one of 'em is BOUND to be right! lol
Did I mention we go to Charleston every summer so you and I WILL get to see each other then, too? I'm already excited.
Thanks for doing your part here to educate the b-sphere about a Very Important Concept. Surcies are the most special of lovies….
Which goes back to my original sentiment….people can be surcies, too.
Much grace & love
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(forgive all the smilies!! But you put 'em there!)
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Oh the south…makes me smile!
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Robin, I had to go and edit my post to mention this because I totally
MEANT TO, but I've been adding to this post all day long, feeling as
though my words were inadequate for what you all (and all your
surcies, material and of the heart) meant to me. Mean to me still.
Thank you for the reminder.
And OMG I get to visit with you every summer?! So fab.
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You are my Surcee. (and Robin too, for that matter:)
Meeting you was one of those *meant to be* things.
You are already a fixture around our house (”oh–guess what Ari said this morning! Did you see her new house?….”).
I knew I was giving that pretty pretty thing to the right person. I could just feel it in my bones:)
SaraSophia
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What a lucky girl you are! Those are both adorable, and I love the quaint little custom. Glad to learn about it!
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What a sweet concept! I had never heard that term before either – but then again, I am a northerner, born and bred.
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I love this post so much.
Sometimes I wonder if I made the
right decision to not be an incourage writer, but they are truly in another league… I know without a doubt I am not ready yet. Maybe someday. I need to be a more regular reader there. They do offer so much asking nothing in return. You are blessed to have these sweet encounters. It seems like it's all falling right in place.
Steph
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I love this post so, so much. Growing up in the south, I'd never heard it called surcie but it sure is a long standing tradition to do things like this to bless others. I love the (in) courage site, too. Those women are gutsy and their writing often brings me to my knees.
You, sweet woman, are a surcie, for sure. You hold a sweetness in your heart that is so very rare. At Blissdom, I was in awe of you. You are always thinking and you seem to just love life and love people. You are going to fit right in down here
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Oh, I just love this idea so much, and I love that you were blessed by these women, and they were blessed by you. God was in that moment of Seercie giving for sure
. BTW- I used your bathroom the other day, and found that necklace and TOTALLY almost stole it because I love it so much, and I think I might have to before you leave.
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You know, I'm from Texas and I had never heard that word…but I'm pleased that you have enlightened me to it. I've always loved the idea of little special things for no reason…sometimes those are the gifts that are the most needed…and that make the greatest impact.
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I lived in the South for a short while and immediately picked up on the whole surcee phenomenon. Almost 20 years later, I still call fun little gifts surcees. Still drives my husband crazy because he doesn't understand the concept, but I'm teaching my kids all about them!
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I really want my own posie pins, but I definitely have to wait until you leave the state (SOB), so it doesn't look like I'm copying. (EVen though I totally am.)
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That's such a beautiful concept!
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Love it!
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So cool. My husband grew up getting “susseys” and even though our parents were all from Alabama, I had NEVER heard such a word. I had not known anyone else to use it either, but it is SO stinkin' close to “surcee”.
BTW, the south is going to LOVE you!!!
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I love, love, love this post.
Surcies are wonderful.
xoxoxo
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